Now, if I met her online and after a few emailing sessions, I asked her for her number, she would automatically compare me to the 100 other emails she received from guys who asked her the same question, Then she would ask herself, "Would I like to date him more then " I...Imagine a simpler time: A well-dressed single gentleman pulls up to the front of a single lady’s home in the early evening, steps out of his car, and approaches her front door.According to the Pew Research Center, one in every 10 American adults has used an online dating site or a mobile dating app.“…the use of online dating sites has become steadily more prevalent in recent years.In 2008 just 3% of all Americans said that they had used an online dating site; by 2009 that figure had risen to 6% of all Americans, and today 9% of the adult population has used an online dating site.”Being able to connect with so many possible matches at the touch of a button should have simplified the already difficult process and made it even easier to find a “soul mate.” Yet it has instead complicated it, resulting in less solid relationships than ever before.“Traditional courtship—picking up the telephone and asking someone on a date—required courage, strategic planning and a considerable investment of ego (by telephone, rejection stings),” The New York Times reported in the article “The End of Courtship?The two of them were introduced to one another by a mutual friend at a social function some weeks prior. As she steps outside, he offers an umbrella to shield her from rain showers, walks with her to the passenger side of the car, and opens the door for her. The pair takes a scenic route to a special destination: a reserved table at an elegant restaurant.Conversation flows naturally for a couple hours, with each beginning to learn about the background and interests of the other.However, the only disadvantage of the filter method is the competition that a potential dater will encounter.For example, if I approached a young woman at school in English class and after a few minutes of talking, I asked her for her phone number, she would only have a few seconds to evaluate me and then ask herself, " Would I like to date him"?
Step back for a moment and ask: Is modern dating truly normal? The focus in the 21st century is less about finding someone to date, court and marry than finding someone who can be fun “for the moment.”“Raised in the age of so-called ‘hookup culture,’ millennials—who are reaching an age where they are starting to think about settling down—are subverting the rules of courtship,” The New York Times reported.“Instead of dinner-and-a-movie, which seems as obsolete as a rotary phone, they rendezvous over phone texts, Facebook posts, instant messages and other ‘non-dates’ that are leaving a generation confused about how to land a boyfriend or girlfriend.“‘The new date is “hanging out,”’ said [a 24-year-old] associate television producer in Manhattan, who is currently developing a show about this frustrating new romantic landscape.And later, if the two people are not compatible, then the dater can click a button and quickly move on to the next candidate.If they used the traditional method of dating then they would have to waste time and go on several dates.This may be repeated on a regular basis, and could eventually lead to courtship and marriage as the two get to know one another through hours of conversation, spread over months.To older readers, the scenario above may have at least a vague, distant familiarity.